While goth is a punk culture, historically speaking, it does not reject the mainstream outright. It's something more like a profound lack of faith or lack of interest in mainstream values. Unlike other counter-cultures, goth never severed its economic ties to the mainstream. Most goths have jobs or are in school. They have a sort of "You have the body, but not the soul" mentality.

What are gothic counter-values? There is no manifesto, so it's impossible to enumerate them. It would be safe to say, at least, that there is a belief that beauty can be found in sorrow and dark things in general. It's an acceptance of all aspects of life.

Goths do not possess a normal level of interest in 401k plans and the bone-crushing capacities of various SUVs. Their emphasis is shifted toward the mystical and the other-worldly. They are artistic and impractical.

Goths are a sensual people. They hug and touch a lot.

Cross-dressing and androgeneity are common, as are ambiguous sexual orientations. Everything from monogamous boy-girl couples to small networks of bi/gay/straight lovers exist.

Tolerance of all religious and political orientations is universal. There is no racism or sexism. Violence is almost unheard of. These are not ideals that are espoused; this is not a politically correct culture. These are just the facts on the ground.